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Monday, May 29, 2006

The L Word

Vacations help you to sit back and think of life. There are observations at the end of day due to introspection, some of them wise and some otherwise. The bottomline is that we grow wiser anyway if we think, observe and learn rationally! On one of those journeys inside self, I stumbled upon the L word, Love!

What is love is a question even heavy budget, multi-starrer, never ending Bollywood Musical extravaganzas left to our imaginations! I am a nobie(no spelling mistake here :P) and hence cant answer that, but what I am stuck up with is a question. The question being: Does one L word lead to the other L word? For rank newcomers, does Love lead to Lust? We, as a society, student body or any damn community bretheren we belong to have been programmed to attach love with lust and marriage. We have made Meet --> Love --> Lust --> Marriage as a standard Commitment Life Cycle, reminds of the gud old Waterfall Model of Software Development :P

Coming to the L words again, should they be so cohesive? Can't there be love without lust and which doesnot lead to marriage? I dont say be so puritan that you start to feel like a bro and sis. Cant two people so mad and crazy about each other just enjoy each others company without getting overtly physical? Should you love every girl you like and should you marry every girl you love? Why is love outside a family only linked to marriage? Why cant a guy and girl be a pair, share love for each other but not marry not because they dont want to, but due to the conditions and constraints that prevail, for I staunchly believe Conditions and Constraints maketh a choice!

Does being mad or crazy for a girl mean you end up with her in bed? Cant it mean companionship, overwhelming love and admiration for each other? I feel pure love is that where a pair loves each other, stand the test of time, sticks by each other but if the C-words arent resonant with them, will just part ways in life but not in souls! You can never forget a person if you love him/her. They should, in first case, not try to part ways but if destiny has it that way, they have memories in mind and each other in heart.

Love doesnt mean getting physical, thats lust. A kiss that will assure the other person, a hug that will reconcile each other to the fact that they indeed share the flames is love. A kiss and a hug are never lust, the feelings that lead to them are. If the feelings leading to them are plebeian materialistic deeds to enjoy vicarious thrills, it is lust. If the feelings are divine, just to show the other person you care and share their feelings, it is love. The line(another L word) between these L words is way too thin and it is all in your mind how to demarcate one from the other. For love, lust, greed or whatver is never in actions but in the minds that do it.

Think pure, act pure! The world will so fully be pure and reciprocate your purity and sanity. Love you all! :)


At May 29, 2006 9:02 PM, Blogger TMaYaD said...

I got a doubt of my own. Is a marrital relation nothing but sex? Or does it have anything more to it. When a family and kids come into picture, many things crop up. But considering only a boy and a girl, what difference does it make if they marry or not.

Unless I can get an answer for that one, I don't think I can think about this.

At May 30, 2006 1:59 AM, Blogger santosh saladi said...

hi maama...
nice post.
i always doubted whether there is love between a boy and a girl with out physical relationship. then i had seen various instances in life where love plays a greater role than just physical relationship..

any ways nice post...

comparision wid software project life cycle shows your commitment to SEN :-)

At May 30, 2006 10:45 PM, Blogger Lusus Naturae said...


Love u 2

At May 31, 2006 10:07 AM, Blogger PSR Chaitanya said...

Wanted to comment before i read it.:P
So lemme read. Love, lust ...interesting.[:)]

At June 06, 2006 11:07 AM, Blogger meTaL said...

im just glad someone's still blogging!! :)

At June 06, 2006 12:28 PM, Blogger a blue eyed girl said...

Hmmm great post Naresh! But I don't believe love leads to lust. Heres my take on it. I mean when we fall in love with someone, of course it is only natural that at some point you would want that relationship to move to the next level. But with True Love it is not lust, it is Desire to share yourself with that other person, because you have so much love for them naturally you want to share physical love as well as emotional. Lust is empty, its more of a primal sexual feeling, I don't believe that Lust has anything to do with Love.
btw, I just love reading your blogs, I dont always leave comments, but I check it every now and then! :)

At June 06, 2006 9:25 PM, Blogger shikha said...

hey i think i can go on writin abt this one ...cuz its smthin i hav done my phd on!!!!!

anyway , see when ya are actually in love , getting physical or a kiss or even a hug , these thing sseem so secondary....ya can be with the one you love even without touchin her for years and its true!!!...and hug n kiss or anything which comes under "physical intimacy" is jus an extension of the fact that we care...when u kiss or hug teh one you love , its for expressing how much u care and you will always be there ....even animals cuddle to show dat they care....its all very human!!! ...and then it leads to sex which is the purest form of union ....and its kinda sad to see how ppl hav degraded something as pure as sex to "lust"...ugghh....lust is all abt not understandin a bit abt sex or physical intimacy or love....i still wonder how can ppl hav sex wid someone they dont love...!!!!!!!!this defies teh whole idea of physical intimacy...!!world s weird!!1

At June 07, 2006 11:42 AM, Blogger puneet said...

hi anna!!!
firstly, hatsoff to ur unabated commitment to SEN...
secondly, My opinion stands pretty much on the same grounds as the blue eyed girl's..."Lust is not love" and "Love is not lust"...their units just don't match..:D
so we can't and shudn't compare them
and u too :P

At June 14, 2006 12:42 AM, Blogger Sarat Chandra Addepalli said...

i suppose it is greanted that "what is love" is a question that has no definite answer. but then comes the next most important question: how do you know whether you are in love? is it just a wish to lead your whole life with some one? does being in love mean commitment and responsibility? then how is it different from marriage? if on the other hand being in love means the urge to share every experience with some one else, how is it any different from friendship or some other form of camaraderie? is loving different from being in love? can you be in love with more than one person at a time?

too many questions, too little time :(

At June 17, 2006 1:09 PM, Blogger Rahul said...

dobbei rendu okate
andaru kaamandhule
only few people believe in platonic relationships smirk smirk

And I strongly disagree. The L word should be by convention the F word - F + L. :D

At July 31, 2006 7:43 PM, Blogger averagedrinker said...

the L word for me is lust. i always get the L-word from chatting on webdate_dot_com. sometimes i get confused with lust and love but like it when i feel the vibe. i love it when i'm horny.LOL!


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